photo via @SteveMartinToGo from twitter.com
I literally laughed out loud when I saw this, but now it is how I plan on ending my night. Why? Because I just found out that I lost my wedding reception venue.
My sister Skyped me last night to let me know that the owner of my reception venue is selling the restaurant and moving to New York. My sister spoke to me like she was taking apart a bomb, as if she was expecting me to yell or burst into tears, but I kept my cool. After I hung up with her Masa asked if I was okay and I said I was fine. I decided to take a sleeping pill just in case I could’t sleep which didn’t help as I tossed and turned most of the night, and I’m ashamed to say that my eyes teared up a bit. All of the plans I made for the wedding reception were now useless, and I could never make the vision that I had for my reception and cocktail hour come true.
Granted, the wedding is eleven months away, but the trip to the states where I plan on confirming everything is one month away. This means I need to find a good venue in on one month.The next day I went online and contacted a few vendors, and wrote to a few vendors. There was not much else I could do.
I have been patiently waiting for answers from vendors and just trying to keep my cool.
Anyone else have a major wedding hiccup?
So one of my New Year’s resolutions was to be more frugal and money- conscious. After work I would often go to an import store to pick up a few things like a bottle of wine or some bagels, and then stop by the dollar store and pick up a few things . I think that this sort of minor shopping was my way of decompressing after work, but now I realize that buying all of those little things really added up. I was always over my budget at the end of the month.
Currently, I am trying hard not to buy anything unless I absolutely need it. I have been getting home a lot earlier and have a bit more cash in my pocket. It’s been pretty nice and I’m looking forward to the extra money I’ll have for the wedding.
It has been hard though. I must admit that I am a sucker for sales. I had to unsubscribe from the Gap Online newsletter because I bought something from them whenever there was a sale- which was every week.I often bought things just because they are on sale.
This was 40% off!
For example 40% off is a great deal, but I don’t think I really need this dress. I wear track pants to work everyday and I’m mostly home on the weekends trying to save money for the wedding- though I am hoping I make an amazing new friend who has fancy dinner parties at their house so I can wear my new dresses.
I have a confession.
I love Oprah.
I am in the cult of Oprah.
Well one of the things that Oprah has said time and time again is to put yourself first. I am sure she is mostly referring to hectic moms who need to get in some desperately needed “me” time, but I am applying it to myself anyway as I have found I have trouble saying no.
Random Person: “Will you go to my 50 dollar play?”
Me: “Yes, even though I have no interest in it and can’t afford it.”
Random Person: “Will you take a 2 hour train ride to have a 10 minute cup of coffee with me?
Me: Yes, even though I barely know you and do not want to hear about your trip to Guam.
Now, of course, if it were a very good friend or family member I would happily do these things. No questions. But I say yes to people I barely know or like, just because I don’t want to hurt their feelings and therefore not have them like me anymore. I know it’s sad. I want people to like me. I want people to think I am the most charming person in the room. I want people to say, ” There goes Cici. She’s such a nice person.”
Trust me, I know it’s sad.
But from now one, if I don’t want to go and I see no other reason besides wanting to be liked I am going to say no. If they ask why I am going to give them an honest answer.
Here’s to a stronger me.