There are six differences in these two pictures. Can you spot the differences?
This was one of the many games that we played at our after party. When you hear the phrase “after party” you may think of a party at a club or a bar, but in Japan, wedding after parties are usually game nights held in restaurants. The usual set up is this: all the guests pay a cover charge to enter. This cover charge will cover food (usually a buffet), free drinks, and prizes for the games that you play. Our after party’s cover charge was about $65 dollars (somewhat cheap- the average price is about $75 or $80) and would cover the buffet, open bar, and all of the prizes.
There is usually a two hour gap between the after party and reception and most guests go to a café or do some shopping during the gap while the bride, groom, and the friends who are coordinating the after party setup the venue. Our after party location was very close to our reception location and our after party coordinator suggested that we bring the flowers from the reception over to the after party venue to save money on decorations. Many of my friends stayed around to help carry the flowers over to the after party venue and set up.
A centerpiece taken from the wedding reception and brought to the after party with the after party table numbers.
Does that flower arrangement look familiar? It was on our sweetheart table!
Mr. G started the after party with a quick speech to thank everyone from being there. We then had another cake cutting with the giant spoon gag again and Mr. G’s best friend, Stuart, said a quick speech in Japanese (we wrote out the speech phonetically for him in Japanese). We all said “Kampai!” and the party officially started. As we did in our wedding reception, we went around to every table to take pictures.
The “big spoon” gag again!
More photos with guests. Can you tell that the vibe is much more relaxed at the after party?
The after party is much more casual than the wedding reception. The older guests tend not to come and no one pours beer for the bride and groom. Mr. G and I were able to sit for a bit and eat and then chat with friends. After about an hour it was time for the games!
The first game that we did was find-the- differences with the photo above. The first six people to guess the differences had to rock, paper, scissors to determine the winner. (Everything in Japan is decided by rock, paper, scissors.)
In the middle of a heated game of rock, paper, scissors.
Next we played Bingo. Whoever got Bingo was able to choose from a pile of gifts all wrapped up so you couldn’t tell what was inside. The gifts ranged from expensive, like a Nintendo 3DS or digital camera, to less expensive like bubble bath and anime action figures.
Our bingo set
Guests choosing their gifts after winning bingo.
Our final game was a marshmallow toss game. The guests had to guess how many tries it would take for me to land a marshmallow in Mr. G ‘s mouth by throwing them toward him across the room— the answer is six!
After that, my friends who planned the after party, had a surprise for me. They had Mr. G reenact our proposal.
Once the after party was finished we had another receiving line. We handed out gift bags of American candy and said good- bye once again to our guests. It was great having a receiving line again to say hello and thank you to some guests who weren’t able to make it to the wedding reception but to the the after party.
So were you able to spot the differences?
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We have our rehearsal dinner,.
We set up the venue,
We do our first look and family photos.
The sushi at cocktail hour was great.
We blatantly copy the internet.
Our boss gives a speech.
We say Kampai!
We cut the cake.
A quick guide to Japanese wedding receptions.
My bouquet toss was an epic fail.
I change my dress.
Our guests ate and drank.
There were tears.
We had a receiving line.